The major area of ignorance that causes sexual {anxiety} in many men is the belief that the quality of sexuality should be measured in terms of size or hardness of a man's {penis}. Naturally, there are fundamental physical requirements, but beyond these, it is the !i! relationship !n! between the couples which matters.
Additional male {anxiety} may be due to fear of: {Premature ejaculation}, making partner pregnant, catching sexually transmitted disease. Usually however, this is only temporary. The ability to communicate with your partner is essential. Some common male anxieties may be completely unfounded - e.g. !i! assumption !n! your partner requires delayed ejaculation, or a long-lasting {erection}.
She may prefer other forms of stimulation, such as {oral sex}. Once you understand what your partner prefers (& you'll only do this by asking), fulfilling sex, without {anxiety}, is much easier. If you're experiencing difficulties with your partner, you might try the following exercise which was pioneered by the American doctors, Master & Johnson. . .
#senate focus
The 'sensate focus theory' involves a couple exploring each others' bodies by caressing & then preceding, in stages, to the sex organs. The process concentrates on rediscovering erotic feelings through touch (heightening sexual responsiveness). By initially prohibiting full sexual activity, the therapy removes {anxiety} about performance & helps overcome inhibitions & tensions.
SENSATE FOCUS TECHNIQUE:
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each partner agrees to abstain from intercourse for 3 weeks
set aside 3 evenings/week (or any convenient time), when you can be alone together without interruption for at least 2hrs
REMEMBER - refrain from !i! full !n! intercourse!!
each partner should take it in turns to massage the other (best done if both partners are naked)
massage should involve gentle exploration of partner's body, avoiding {genital} areas & breasts
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Concentrate on pleasure from being touched/touching. Having overcome any awkwardness & when finding enjoyment from the experience (this may take several days) move onto the next stage. . .
Continue massaging, but include {genital} regions & breasts so sexual stimulation is felt !i! in context !n! with other body sensations.
Soon after this stage, you should be ready to resume full intercourse. You should find the process more relaxed & begin to enjoy the full range of physical & emotional sexual feelings.
